My Thoughts on Valentine's Day

Monday, February 14, 2005
Today is Valentine's Day. Most of my previous girlfriends, with the exception of the last one, would say I'm a very romantic guy. I go out of my way to be thoughtful and to plan romantic evenings throughout the year. I always buy my girlfriends flowers and I'm prone to give gifts at random times. Every time I have had a girlfriend on Valentine's day I have done something special for her just so she knows what she means to me.

That being said, I'm not a fan of Valentine's Day. Yes it is a Hallmark and Chocolate and Flower industry holiday but that is not necessarily my problem with it. I just think it is

A) An easy way out
B) An easy trap to fall into

A boyfriend should be romantic the entire year, not just one day. Just because he buys you flowers and chocolates and takes you out that night does not make him a good boyfriend. For guys like me that try hard the entire year it sickens me that some guys get a "Get out of Jail Free" card for just being thoughtful on one day.

What upsets me even more is that if I share this view with females I often get chastised for it. So a guy like me, who is certain to bring you flowers on every month anniversary, gets in trouble for not following the crowd one day a year. How silly is that? Wouldn't you women rather have a guy who treats you like a queen every day of the year? A guy makes sure to make a big deal of your anniversary since it is YOUR holiday. A guy that tells you he loves you not because he is supposed to but because he wants to?

I guess I just don't get women.


ladeemase said...

I so agree with you about this V-day crap. My blog is kind of similar to yours, but different words.

Happy V-day by the way!

T said...

I don't know if I think valentines day is crap. Like I said, I usually celebrate it in some fashion. I just think it is silly for girls to get either all worked up about it if their boyfriend doesn't do anything or to get all excited if they do.

Meg said...

There is no way to win on Valentine's day. In my experience, the day has always been a disaster, no matter what you do. Now, excuse me while I rock back and forth in a corner, tearfully.

Anonymous said...

I think you've got the right idea about the day. And if your girl doesn't at least understand your point of view, it is time to find a new one. And if she is insistent, there is always the March 14th (or is it the 20th?) holliday of Steak and BJ day.

T said...


LOL. I actually couldn't stop laughing when I read that link. If a girl agreed to celebrate that holiday with me she could have whatever she wanted on Valentine's Day.

Jenny said...


Anonymous said...

As a WOMAN who loves giving and receiving affectionn, respect, just down to earth kinda guy I am NOT into the Valentine's day CRAP either.. I would not refuse the flowers, chocolate's,i'd rather have the all year round romance , material things are of no importance if you cannot show the person you are with your feelings without buying or doing on any GIVEN DAY..
To you i'd say the GIRLS you had lost.. lol so HAPPY V-DAY to you